12.20.17 Sometimes The Plot Thickens

Sometimes, the circumstances in our lives become more complex. 

Sometimes the plot thickens.
Sometimes, in order to really show up for someone , we begin doing things.
Eating as well as we can. Perhaps going out and taking a walk or exercising.
To ensure we can still sleep as well as possible. To ensure that we are healthy and calm and well as much as possible. 
Perhaps meditating little bit, to protect our sleep, to protect our peace of mind during the days.

We seek these measures out just for sanity, learning to be present, integrating mindfulness, just to get through this moment, and the next. 

Because no matter what is coming, we can manage the present moment. 

And with the exception of mindfully processing the past or future, 

with the exception of pragmatically planning the future, 

really what keeps us from suffering, 

even in the sweet toughest circumstance,

 is remaining only right here, right now. 

Until all of these measures we are taking, to manage the best we can,  all these measures are holding us. Stabilizing us. Enabling us to do that which we most want to do. Be present.

And sometimes, in  tough times, we begin to notice those around us.
And those who don’t seem to be able to be present. With us. 

They have convictions or assumptions, or fears. When we are in proximity, they push us and pull us and pile their fears and convictions upon us, not seeing how they are burdening our tough road, our tough efforts. 

With difficult times, we fine-tune our ability to be present ,we fine-tune obstructions. 

Reinforcing supports. Moving away from those who don’t.

And in this fine-tuning of who we are in proximity to, it is no fault.
There is no good and bad. There is simply acknowledging what fits best for us, right now. And then making our choices, taking our responsibility, as we get down to what matters most.

Others in our lives we can care about. We can want the best for them.
But when things get this kind of difficult, we rearrange. Who is closest to us, who impacts us, who impairs our path, and who supports it.

Like a winter storm, tough circumstances clear away the habits, the proximity to people, all the other things that are not strong enough. That actually don’t fit well . And we slowly, in the storm, break free. Break clean.

We can care about those who we choose not to have in closer proximity, when their attitudes or their fears trundle our own economized struggling best efforts. 

And they can go on in their own lives, being responsible for their own choices. 

And their own consequences.

The meantime, we are a fine tuning organism. 

Our intent is to be clear, clean, well nourished, stable and strong.

As we turn toward that in our life which we are supporting. 

Those in our life who need us most. 

As we hunker down, providing our attentiveness, our care, simply being fully present.