Friday, August 9, 2013
8.9.13 Out Out We Go, Tromping in the Summer Rain
Raining and pouring, life giving waters; on farmer's fields (our fields/food),
on thirsty trees and forests and vines, gardens,
filling our water table, filling our homes with showers and baths and
drinks of the best water. Steaming our vegetables, rinsing our salads,
washing our hands and brushing our teeth.
Keeping the ravines sweeping along with their soothing rushing sound
I can hear beneath the pour and patter of the rain,
singing upon all the tree's leaves, splattering upon the field
and the driveway and the lawn.
About to go on a soaking, delicious dog walk with a friend
and two of their four, count'em, four dogs, on a new nearby path
(this person is a specialist when it comes to places to log
miles and miles for
mountain bike and snowshoes and cross country skis and hiking
and swimming those dogs
and all the canine fosters and all).
While snuggled at home will remain the
almost 16 year old,
to wait for a more reasonable day.
So wet wet wet we will be, the pup and I,
tromping through sopping wet forest,
watching dogs race and tumble and run and twist
this way and that,
sneakers sopped in no time at all,
wiping rain off faces,
my pup a somewhat larger wet rat by now,
seeing what all the big dogs are doing
Tromping in the rain, for me, bested only by tromping in the winter rain. Yup.
Out, out I go...have a wonderful day you all.
Thursday, August 8, 2013
8.8.13 Kids on Rivers on Tubes; an AnyKindOfDay
You have a 12 year old and a 13 year old. Summer is
approaching. You love them. And you don’t want to suffer.
You lie in bed at night generating ideas. And consider
possibilities again during quiet moments driving driving the 2 kids in the car. You remember what your
oldest, 20 now, enjoyed the most at those ages. In your imagination, you scan the entire county ,while you rush
down the aisles of the grocery store.
You ‘bring up ideas’ to your beloved at night when he
would rather be doing….something else. You think over scenarios. Which friends
would manage what well enough for you to survive the expedition. You crunch
numbers. Then you gather up a good sized just-in-case folder in your mind, of
ideas, that mostly don’t cost, to pepper the summer months in between anything
bigger they love or you can afford.
Tubing the Deerfield River, up Route 2, on The Mohawk
Trail, was one of those I hitched under my arm, for just the right kind of
kvetchy, sunny enough, miserably hot, too long since anything fun, no
volunteer-jobs that day, time.
Gradually I researched the river, which opens dams on a
schedule, so that one moment all is calm and shallow and peaceful, and the
next, Zoar Outdoor is conducting white water rafting groups, zipping and
splashing down a wild style river.
Normally, the Deerfield River seems almost as broad as
The Connecticut and often knee deep, sprinkled with large stones and boulders
all across the way, a typical New England rocky river. With a bit more water,
you can swim and get carried along on a brisk but manageable speed, past New
England Farms and hilly countryside, down past tall waving corn fields and
horse meadows, from Charlemont down to Shelburne toward Greenfield, small
villages with twist and turns along the sweet old river.
The day came, the two youngest crabbing and fighting,
teasing and struggling as the day began, hot and sticky, as we woke. Luckily, it was
not a day for seeing my clients. Off my dear one went to work, laughing as he slammed
the door and escaped, leaving me behind with whining lanky kids , too young for paying jobs , old enough
to complain about mandatory volunteer jobs, pain in the butt enough to still be
giving each other a hard time as if their lives depended upon it, on and on.
Taking a little saved up cash for this venture, I sat
them both down, and said, “Ok, this is what we’re going to do.”, their eyes
hopeful, legs itching to go go go.
“You’re each going to call two friends, help me locate
four more tubes, I’ll call Black Sheep Deli and get them to make up the sandwiches of
choice, with one drink and one cookie for each kid. We’ll pick up your friends,
drive over and grab the food, and head on up the Deerfield River, til we get to
the Charlemont Bridge, where I’ll personally toss you all in the water. Okay?”
Eyes shining, they began fighting over the phone, while I
rolled my eyes, gathering cups and towels and water bottles and chips and
apples and sunscreen and Arnica. Yeah, I thought, that’s about it.
The dogs whined and begged as two long legged kids
tumbled down the staircase, shorts and T-shirts and old sneakers and flat
un-inflated tubes in arms. “Nope, sorry you two.” I apologized to the small Mini
Husky and the aged Aussie. Plopping a few ice-cubes in their water to make up
for this wind-less, 95 degree day, I left them behind, the kids scrambling into
the station wagon, arguing about whose friends would be picked up in what
order, and where the best place was to inflate tubes, and perilously tie them
to the top of the station wagon.
Off we went, to four houses, as I stepped out to have the
parental conversations, promising caution and to deliver well-exhausted
children back home in the late afternoon. Happy smiling parents walked away as
I stole their cranky offspring and got
back into the slowly filling car.
Some shared seat belts (you know that maneuver, where you
criss-cross three seat belts to cover four kids) , and that left me with bouncing,
singing kids…two in the front seat , competing songs, naughty sayings from the
boys to gross out the girls. Oh God, I thought, what happened to all my ideas of liberation and sex role
options and ….as I called to them in my Sargent voice to simmer down, and for
awhile, each time, they would, all completely adorable, like teenager puppies,
gangly and funny and figuring things out, as they bumped into each other and
made up stories and planned tubing strategy
(Let’s all hold ankles and make a long line “
, “ No,no, let’s make a circle and hold on and see how long we last!!” ),
as I managed to survive the noise level, smiling at their loveliness.
Barging into The Black Sheep Deli, racing over to the
displays of meats and cheeses and the racks of huge cookies and the frosted
refrigerators of exotic drinks, (“Don’t lean on the cases. Hey, hey, don’t put
your fingers all over the cases. See this person in front of you??? They have
to wipe off the crud people leave all over the glass. Right??” ) they competed
and pushed each other and drove the employees nutso, when not smiling at the
gaggle of kids…so excited, creating all kinds of amazing complex weird
sandwiches, me standing by them, hands on the shoulders of kids I had known
for…forever almost…reminding them that they actually had to be able to EAT this
invention, because this was IT for their food.
Hmmm. Well. Then second
thoughts…the backpedaling from outrageous to mildly unusual, finally all
holding a wonderful, fat ,filled wrapped
sandwich, a huge cookie of choice, a coveted drink (NO, not Coke, you have to
have something natural, sorry kids.) (Grimacing…the friends about to push me,
til my kids would whisper, as they always did to their friends “She seems
really nice, but DON’T ask her again. She doesn’t change her mind. Don’t bug
her. “).
I would look at them, hunch up my shoulders like “Oh
well, it’s true, right?”, push them a bit on the shoulder for fun to get a
smile again, and off we went, six kids tumbling back into the car, me trying to
remain sane while insisting all the food went in the cooler (“NO you can’t eat it now. Have an apple.”),
leaning over them as I fought with the stupid seat belt configuration,
squishing the poor kids into place, but at least, safe.
Up the highway we headed (quick, get these creatures out
into the water before I self destruct!!!), all of them calling and pointing to
familiar sights. The frontier village , life sized, one resident built just for fun. The water tower-type tower you
could pay to climb up, at one of 15 gift shops, to scan the valley below, as
the car slowly climbed up the ancient Mohawk Trail. The gift shop with the deer
in large cages. (Oh, can we stop THERE??? And THERE????” “NO.” )
Past the Fur Shop, with dead animal furs hanging out on
the railing, Sheepskins and other skins, a building my father-in-law helped to
build many years ago, my kids explaining this to their friends, breathlessly,
as we neared our destination. The small, closed down ski resort, the rope tow
languishing between poles, the small hill a field of tall grasses, the building
decrepid and listing.
Past The Duck Pond, a small restaurant , if it could be
called that, with, yes , and small pond , and , yes, ducks. (“Can we stop
THERE????” “Nope.”)
Past the turn off to the apple picking farm up in
Colrain, with a shaded petting zoo of hoofed and winged creatures.
Until we began to catch glimpses of the river, between
trees, as we climbed higher and higher into the hill towns, the kids exclaiming
when they saw the waters in between hills and intermittent buildings.
Talking excitedly about what the waters looked like –
dangereuse, or boring baby stuff- you know, all the concerns of this age when
embarking upon a small summer’s day
adventure. Me saying now and then “Hey, pull your head back in!!” or “Stop
pinching your brother. We’re almost there.”
We finally wind round the small sleepy town of Charlemont,
and head over the little bridge that heads toward the ski area Berkshire East,
the hills growing higher and higher the farther we have gone. Across the
bridge we pull into a small dirt
clearance, and I park the car.
Yeah, everybody with life jackets on (“Are you
KIDDING????” “No. Put it on. Let’s
get you all going!!”)
Inner tubes that have been bobbing like enormous clouds
on top of the car, tied down on the station wagon, are freed, bouncing down on
the ground, kids rolling them here and there, bumping into each other, yelling
and jumping. “Okay okay. Listen up.” I call, and they turn obediently to my no-nonsense
bark.
“I’m going to be driving down the road, and pull over,
ahead of you, run down to the river, and stand there on the rocks til you pass
by. Make sure to notice me, and let me know everything is going great, Ok???
Alright??? You listening???” . And they all smile and nod, horses at the gate,
go-away-go-away-you-mother-and-let-us-go!!!.
“Ok, have a good time!” I smile, arms folded across my
chest, last suggestions of drinks of water past, as , smeared with
sunscreen (“ Do I HAVE to?” “What do you think???”) , they tumble into
the thigh high water, nicely covering maybe 4/5 of each rock, great and perfect
current, scorching sun, sweat soaked kids laughing, giggling, hopping on their
tubes, falling over and getting drenched, making fun of each other, splashing,
shrieking…me admonishing them, uselessly, from the sidelines, my daughter and
son giving me reassuring looks of “We remember what we talked about, Mom, about
keeping everyone safe, don’t worry”, to which I flash back my loving-est, full
of delightedness smile back, of acknowledgment, of just just the tip top of
frosting of all the hard, sometimes heartbreaking work, of parenting.
And boom, off they go, as I rush to the Volvo, hop in and
pull on my seat belt, whip out of there a little bit fast in my actual anxiety,
tires spitting dirt behind me in a cloud
of dust.
Over the bridge, as I glance to the side to see the six
precious beings, then turn onto the trail once again, slow slow be slow through
the little town, open it up a bit when I’m further out on the small, winding
country road, and zip along to the place I eyeballed last before we turned for
the bridge, putting on my turn signal, and slowly making my way down the corn field road…a bit rutted…a bit
potholed…slowly avoiding the resounding scrape of the bottom of the car that
could signal…big expensive repairs, further just a bit, and turn to the side of
the old, solid stone wall, and just beyond the trees…there is the river. Yup.
With the kids.
Jump out of the car, water bottles in hand, and race
between rocks and brambles and poison ivy , round tree clumps and over the stone
wall…further through the brush, a bit anxiously, and there I am…phew…on the
river. The view beautiful. Beautiful.
I slip off my flip flops, and balance on rocks down to
the water, then stand in the frozen river, my audible sigh soaring out into the
afternoon.
Deer-flies discover me, and I begin slapping, hoping they
hate rivers and kids-floating-in-rivers, stepping quickly out, from rock to
rock, til I’m a bit out in the river, maybe 15 feet, in full view…..wait a good
5 minutes, and yeah, folks, there they come!!! All 1,2,3, yup , yup, all 6,
there they are. Lifejackets still on,
yup. Smiling, alive, NOISY!!!
Splashing and riding the gentle but fast enough current,
feet in the air save one silly one on their belly, laughing their guts out
(their words, not mine), and they see me…and begin yelling and waving and
smiling and screaming happily.
I yell “ Anyone need a drink of water??” and they all
yell “No way!!!’, and head off past me, some attached to others by holding
wrists and ankles, some leaping up with their tube and coming smashing down
into the water, splashing all around. Puppies, really. Sweetest thing.
I step fast back along the river rocks , slip on flip
flops, and race on back to the car, over reflective purple poison ivy and
stretching briars and the crusty beautiful granite stone wall, past the River
Birches all in clusters like good friends , quietly having tea, back to the
car, where I turn it carefully enough in the muddled dust, head on back up the
dirt path, and hightail it down the tiny old highway once again.
Eventually they are ready to EAT, growing things that
they are, and unanimously, no discussion, veer over to the latest spot I am
perched upon, anticipating their bristling hunger by lugging down the cooler
with the munitions.
They fall upon their fancy fat sandwiches, laughing as
gooey mayonnaise and relish and mustard ooze from their lips, globbing down onto
their T-shirts, as they, giggling, smear it along their arms, and make to
embrace each other, kiss each other, with the gooey ketchup and all …screeching
as they pull away from each other in fun, me sitting there just delighting in
the whole whole thing.
Fancy drinks (“Eww this is gross!! I want another
one!!! “Ok, the only other thing
besides the weirdo drink you CHOSE is water. Want that?” “Crap. NO!”.)
Oh, and the huge cookies, some of them death by chocolate
chocolate chip, which may have my own kids up for HOURS tonight??? But what the heck…fun is fun.
A few of them roll around in the shallows, face up- face
down- face up- face…like seeing someone in a washing machine door. I laugh so
hard, as they grin to have an audience. Otters all.
It’s past the time when we all thought stomach cramps
from a meal would drown anyone. Besides, the water is barely thigh deep, there
are Life preservers on, so they wash off all the crap from their lovely young
silly funny faces and arms and chests, and then, off they go, once again.
Two more stops I discover, small dirt roads full of light
green leafy cover, quiet hill-town beauty, a small relief of breeze, as I climb more
stonewalls and find my way to the river two more times, standing out a bit so
they see me, solidly, there. They moan and whine and complain the second time,
but I see their slightly sunburnt faces, their tired bodies, the increased
quiet, the boyant noise and flopping and leaping slowed to a minimum, knowing
they will be just about worn out the next stop.
And they are, quiet and a bit cranky, though some are
cranked on the caffeine from their cookies. All six kids slog to the waiting car. Crabby
they are, complaining ,predictably, about how cramped they are, how the fancy
seat belt deal for four kids in a
backseat pinch….asking me HOW LONG til they get home, complaining that I won’t
let them all come over and hang out, which truly, they don't want to do.
It’s just all that obligatory kid stuff, rules in the secret kid rule book, that they must obey no matter how tired they really may be.
And now, my own two can indulge in their spatting at each
other, at their “Why do THEY get to be in the front seat???” as I smile, and
quietly get them home just as quickly as I can. Just at dinner time, where
their dad has wisely has the meal ready, the crab crab crabby kids sitting down
with a minimum of appetite and eat something, bumping into each other, avoiding
angering their big brother, begging for a video (“No.”), finally making their
way up the stairs to their bedrooms, me not bothering to insist upon bathroom
things.
Soon enough, I wander upstairs, and see one of them sound asleep in his clothes, halfway off his
bed. I tiptoe in, pull the shade enough
for some darkness but still letting some breeze in. Pull sandals off those sweet 12 year old feet,
wiping the sweat off the bridge of his nose, his old old cat snuggling by his
side with the steadfast devotion.
She gives me the
smallest smile, the most she can muster, I understand, quickly, and turns away, reading a book as her
own velvet grey feline beloved makes bread on her pillow, slitted eyes gazing
at her with so much cat love, as my daughter sighs in her polite organized
room, in her polite proper summer pjs, as she pulls her journal to her to begin
her effervescent writing of her life, part real and part imagined, that on
quiet dark nights when I sit on her bed, she sometimes reads to me, as long as I don’t make any
comments, none at all.
I don’t try for a kiss…too long too tiring a day for her.
I just smile to myself, leaving her door open to any ventilation we might be
lucky enough to receive, off darkened house-lined street, off the fairground
fields across the way, off the farmer’s lands father in the distance, off the Connecticut’s out-waters there in Northampton in the blue green mist before I 91, off the distant,
snake-like dusk darkened Mt. Holyoke Range.
Off more lands farther away, off the continent and the earth, spinning
inexorably as it follows its orbit, off the universe as endless as endless as
parental love…sometimes…can be.
As endless as the quick embrace of a 12 year old kid, at the end of a long,
anykindofday. As endless as the “Nite
Mom” of the 20 year old, navigating their newly adult life. As endless as the
kiss of my beloved , met up with in the old kitchen, when the kids are finally
all settled upstairs and done with for the day.
As complex as the soft breath of the 13 year old, light
on, cat ensnared in her arms, journal akimbo, pen fallen almost into her
perfect pj’s, that I quietly grasp and rescue from the pj’s , as I carefully
pluck the journal from her side, never ever peeking, as I pull the shade down
just a bit, as it veers out with a god-given puff of cooling evening breeze, as
I click off her light.
As I head into my bed room and glance at those huge brown
eyes of the person I share all this with, through thick and thin and unbearable
and lovely. As I climb into bed, lights out, small wind passing by our hot
grateful skin, and graciously, off into the kid’s rooms.
House silent. Dogs snuffling. The moonlight reaching in
the two tall, paint blistered windows.
Seeping across the old scruffed
bed. As we reach for each other. And sleep.
Tuesday, August 6, 2013
8.6.13 Like Consolation and Youth
Gemma carefully leaned across the Bull Briars, the claws of the
nearest branch scraping a long thin line into her wrist, small droplets of
blood emerging as her hand finally reached Lucia’s, long fingers sliding into the other’s, her dry
lined skin rustling along digits as
Lucia grabbed hold , as she felt herself
pulled . From the patch she had so painfully fallen into, slowly pulled to her
feet, Gemma now facing her with a broad sorry grin.
“Crap! That hurt!” Lucia spit out, and then, rubbing her long newly
adolescent legs and butt, she checked for thorns, glanced at her savior friend with
a quick conspiratorial smile,
a laugh escaping at the thought of the awkward fall, embarrassing really, that
her stunningly fast footwork along the steep trail down to the brash,
magnificent river had been the undoing.
Laughing back at Lucia, Gemma turned and again headed further
down the rocky trail, careful to place her worn, thin soled sneakers next to
the protruding rocks, picking up speed as they both thrilled themselves with
their rapid, perilous descent, on a boring scorching August afternoon,
barreling toward the narrow, rocky shore far below.
Hundreds of Cedar Waxwings, summer vacationing in the
Bittersweet-claimed river maples, rustled overhead in cool shade, muttering and
complaining, yet refusing to be dislodged by two 13 year olds scampering
through their quiet neighborhood.
Once at the bottom, out of breath, the two leaned into the river
for the view up the riversides, then studied the waters down in the opposite
direction. One side was a steep incline
stabilized by enormous slate blue rocks to create the Arroyo of protection
against errant, city-endangering flooding; the other side extended out
naturally, simply pure river and river bank. The Ash, Maple, and Oak trees flourished,
their roots grown deep into the fertile land on the edge of dangerously fast
waters, their trunks grown accustomed over seasons to the capricious ebb and flow,
not of tides, but rather, floods, droughts, and storms.
Across the broad waterway, two Great Blue Herons lifted their
long legs, one after the other, languid, fishing their way along the banks,
picking among the fishlets that streamed along the river this afternoon, whose
small mouths sipped the air for the early evening insects that swarmed along
the tops of the dappled waters.
Not a person in sight.
Off came the sneakers and shorts, t shirts and underwear, long
hair straggling down young backs, then feet sinking, indolent,
into river soil, the air passing by in a delicious small wind.
They were left feeling
like powerful maidens of old, on some venture or another; full of vital
purpose, called upon for unique gifts and abilities. Like that, they felt, in
this small universe, smooth and free and essential, at the bottom of the poison ivy/ briar laden
path, standing in the shade of the vine-covered trees, not a person or boat in
sight.
With care, they each took steps into the chilled waters, noting
the pace of the current further out, toes and then ankles and then calves
slowly coursed with river streaming past, then knees, then, as always, with wisdom
and care, sat right there, not going further into the wildes of the
Connecticut.
For every summer, there were news stories of who drowned where.
Swimmers. Fishers. Kids. Adults. Yeah, your car would be delayed on some street
between Northampton and Easthampton, while a police car, lights flashing, would
stand by, some citizen with old clothes and army surplus sleeping bag rolled up
next to them, sitting on the rail road tracks, head in hands at the horror we
knew was the sight of a swollen, ripened dead body they had come upon, possibly
while fishing, or was it after waking up late this morning, to turn over and
set sight on that unknown someone, washed up not far from their wooded sleeping
spot, a bit nibbled, white and sodden.
Yeah, with that kind of care, they sat there in the shallows,
watching the enormous Galleon-like Cumulus clouds stream by overhead, one after
the other, as if catching sight of another land entirely, tall and stately;
inviting, filled to the brim with possibility, possibility which wandered and
blossomed in their mind’s eye, as they sat upon the fragrant river’s bed.
Lying back into the silt rich sand, arms thrown overhead,
enjoying the odd feel of hair soaking up the river water with its cool and damp
climbing up toward our heads, they listened to everything and nothing, closed
eyes and feeling every pore on their bodies, every wisp of air that wandered by,
every cloud of insects that came to visit, every ripple and splash of some
sweet old fish reaching up out of the water for a plump dragon fly, then diving
back, bequeathed to the Goddess of
gravity, to munch the insect remains, and swish their sleek huge form down
into dark river depths once again.
The sun began to move, sluggishly, high across the sky, and the
air slowly cooled. Motor boats began appearing, their thrumming sound
approaching round corners, then noisily careening by, dragging behind them screaming
kids on tubes, laughing adults on water
skis, the riverbanks sloshing rhythmic waves across calves and backs in the
boat’s wake.
They both lay low, sunken into the rich old river soil,
invisible to all passing by.
Until finally the mosquitoes did awaken, and begin to discover our
flesh, and they reluctantly sat up, feeling hair thick with the markers of
early onset of dusk, with dark wet sand , heavily dripping down backs.
One last glance at the broad waterway, and they would stand,
finally, stepping with respectful care out out of the waters, onto the banks, where, with
great difficulty, began the struggle to stand on one leg, then the other, and
try to reach one filthy foot into a leg of underpants, then the other. Pull a T-shirt
over damp, sand-haired head and shoulders. Finally, the worn sneakers pulled
upon dirt covered feet, scraping tender soles with each step back up the steep
rocky track.
Past the greedy poison
ivy tendrils reaching clear across worn dirt; past the tall, riotous briar patches,
the Pine Siskins prettily pirouetting through. Tripping and struggling up to the thick, aged
Maple standing guard at the juncture of farmer’s fields, the wide open
conservation walkway, and all the secret river paths left behind.
Out of Lucia’s pocket was pulled a squashed plastic bag of
crackers and peanut butter, smooshed all together, the crackers a thousand
pieces, but no matter, they turned the bag inside out, hungrily scraping the
mess up with dirt filled fingernails, pressing the mix into mouths, looking out
over the soy, the potato, the tobacco fields that stretched far toward the distant
highway, toward the mountain range, toward the tall trees that lined the
old streets, stately and worn old homes living and breathing side by side, lined with
so many lives.
Standing there, Gemma pushed the twisted up plastic bag into mud crusted shorts. As they began to
walk, both noticed the scrape of sand upon toes, soles. Off came sneakers, both of them laughing, then
mmmm, their feet blissfully cool upon the long grass that stood, growing up,
tall, beneath the broad wings of the old tree.
Up against the ancient Maple, leaning into Lucia, a shy smile on
her face, eyes a bit askance, Gemma pressed her lips carefully against Lucia’s…slowly…simply…a
thirteen-year-old kiss.
Then Gemma stepped back, it all passing like the swallows miming
quickened winds overhead, like the river whitecaps in winter, slapping and
racing with their fury; passing like courage and fear, like consolation and youth, loyalty and
relief. Passing the way deep friendship and nakedness within a quiet river afternoon
does, a solemn, trenchant ease.
It did pass as they slowly wandered with mud streaked sneakers
swinging in hands, down the sun baked late afternoon trail, past the now numerous,
invading and ever so purposeful walkers. The helmeted mountain bikers. The lonely,
ardent dog walkers. The careworn-responsible child-carriers; past those
photographing the sun as it effortlessly lowered itself into the waiting
horizon.
Past all the silly grownups having to use so many words, words,
all the time, when they stood watching something they loved, looking about a
bit desperately for someone, someone else to share it with ; as if words or
labeling the wonder of the river or the skies or the swallows or the old leaping
fish or the sunset made it ok, and without that, it was not.
When, within the solemn, unharmed depth of friendship, with youth,
really, no words were necessary, ever.
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