I remember my kids
learning to navigate friendships.
We'd talk about how one
kid was a real pain to bring on an (interminable) N.H. mountain hiking trip,
but great to go bowling with.
Another was fun for a sleepover
at our house, but not their house, and not with huge bunches of other kids.
Slowly, they each began
to develop their sense of what to do with whom, and when it went well, or not
so well, we'd have the bedtime-deconstruction-conversation, where they'd start
out pretty livid at the 'dumb' friend, and end up realizing in retrospect what
would have fit better.
Ending an hour sooner.
Not going unaccompanied to movies with loads of sugary junk that sent that kid
sky high.
It was the coolest thing
to have the privilege of walking along with them, in their lives, while they
figured things out for themselves. And I have to say, still is.
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