Sometimes we experience anxiety in situations ,as a communique from our wise and perceptive subconscious to our consciousness. Sometimes we encounter experiences with others that are uncomfortable in some way, and make the knee jerk mistake of blaming the messenger. Instead of pausing, calming down, and really examining what the message holds for us. Sometimes, our encounters with others rub up against places in ourselves that could do with some realizations, and perhaps a resulting growth of limit-setting for others, of boundaries .
It's so easy for us to blame others who are pushy or tenacious or unkind . Within reason, it's important to hold others accountable ; to use our common sense, and if they are not beneficial, to take the steps we are able to change our proximity to them, and our reception.
And certainly in life there are societal&& limits that we must impose, that by and large can be guided by The Golden Rule. If you wouldn't want that done to you, don't do it to others. Discrimination, unsafe work environment, bullying or intimidation. Great opportunism. Unequal application of rights and justice.
For simpler situations in our personal lives that often generate much anxiety or resentment , taking responsibility to bolster our own boundaries is key.
Oftentimes we are riled by, or wake up from great anxiety. It's a primary way of bringing to light something a part of us knows, but the rest of us has not caught on to yet.
Sometimes there are physical realities that beg problem solving, facing our reality. For which we may or may not be capable of remedying, depending on health or finances. Then, like the many who have come before us, we make every effort to use wisdom and meditation and mindfulness, to accept and live as well as we can, with that which we cannot change.
Realizing we have anxiety about the poor fit we are experiencing with another is an opportunity to grow the internal resources we've needed to be able to handle that kind of situation. Realizing that means we are more able to welcome situations as a chance to grow our versatility as a person.
Much like children developing immunity in response to exposures to pathogens , we also grow new and vital internal structures to our selves via exposure to situations we find difficult.
Blaming the friend or family member or coworker may have some merit, but the crux of our adaptability to the situation still lies in creatively sussing out the situation, realizing the response or internal changes that would help, and then doing the emotional work,so that we grow more of our selves, in response .
Bigger, broader more adaptable response to a difficult situation. Broader immunity .
When we once again encounter the person or the situation, and we have managed to explore our emotions or have conversations of inquiry, versus blame, with a good friend, we grow new capacity to deal with the situation. Most often as we change, clarify and strengthen, the situation or person perceives this, and changes how they are with us. Simply because we have changed.
Thinking anxiety is something in and of itself is a misunderstanding. Anxiety is a message. About poor diet or inadequate sleep or a situation that needs changing. Old things that need resolving, or new skills we need to grow, in order to navigate that type of situation.
Not all situations can BE changed, in our lives, or changed easily or quickly.
But we can do all we can within that context to strengthen ourselves. Grow what we can. Change what we can. And then adapt as beautifully as we can, while learning to tolerate the rest, at least for now.
It's so easy for us to blame others who are pushy or tenacious or unkind . Within reason, it's important to hold others accountable ; to use our common sense, and if they are not beneficial, to take the steps we are able to change our proximity to them, and our reception.
And certainly in life there are societal&& limits that we must impose, that by and large can be guided by The Golden Rule. If you wouldn't want that done to you, don't do it to others. Discrimination, unsafe work environment, bullying or intimidation. Great opportunism. Unequal application of rights and justice.
For simpler situations in our personal lives that often generate much anxiety or resentment , taking responsibility to bolster our own boundaries is key.
Oftentimes we are riled by, or wake up from great anxiety. It's a primary way of bringing to light something a part of us knows, but the rest of us has not caught on to yet.
Sometimes there are physical realities that beg problem solving, facing our reality. For which we may or may not be capable of remedying, depending on health or finances. Then, like the many who have come before us, we make every effort to use wisdom and meditation and mindfulness, to accept and live as well as we can, with that which we cannot change.
Realizing we have anxiety about the poor fit we are experiencing with another is an opportunity to grow the internal resources we've needed to be able to handle that kind of situation. Realizing that means we are more able to welcome situations as a chance to grow our versatility as a person.
Much like children developing immunity in response to exposures to pathogens , we also grow new and vital internal structures to our selves via exposure to situations we find difficult.
Blaming the friend or family member or coworker may have some merit, but the crux of our adaptability to the situation still lies in creatively sussing out the situation, realizing the response or internal changes that would help, and then doing the emotional work,so that we grow more of our selves, in response .
Bigger, broader more adaptable response to a difficult situation. Broader immunity .
When we once again encounter the person or the situation, and we have managed to explore our emotions or have conversations of inquiry, versus blame, with a good friend, we grow new capacity to deal with the situation. Most often as we change, clarify and strengthen, the situation or person perceives this, and changes how they are with us. Simply because we have changed.
Thinking anxiety is something in and of itself is a misunderstanding. Anxiety is a message. About poor diet or inadequate sleep or a situation that needs changing. Old things that need resolving, or new skills we need to grow, in order to navigate that type of situation.
Not all situations can BE changed, in our lives, or changed easily or quickly.
But we can do all we can within that context to strengthen ourselves. Grow what we can. Change what we can. And then adapt as beautifully as we can, while learning to tolerate the rest, at least for now.
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